Sunday, April 6, 2008

Trust, Relation and Forgiveness





I’ve been thinking a lot more about forgiveness the nowadays। We’ve all been wronged at some point in our life। In light of many experiences in life, can we learn to forgive and have unconditional love for those who so clearly haven’t had it for us? Is our forgiveness always divine or, is our forgiveness centered on selfish reasons - to get well and move on?

Just think about a relation which isn’t all able to see the pain in the eyes... Do you think that it’s healthy one? I don’t. Some relationships have some splendid features which can heal any wound ….but some others, though even close and being near always, only helps to bleed inside...

It is said that everyone is a spiritual teacher, especially those who hurt us. There are some people you see on a regular basis - the ones who sometimes pulverize your nerves, push your buttons, or even those who remind you of painful times. Our adversaries turn out to be our greatest teachers then, don’t you think? Does forgiveness then start a healing process?

The most wonderful of all things in life, I believe, is the discovery of another human being with whom one's relationship has a growing depth, beauty, and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing; it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a sort of divine accident, and the most wonderful of all things in life."

Forgiveness comes to picture only when the one who get let off by the other really wishes for the same… until and unless if she/he doesn’t wish for the forgiveness of his/her loved one, it doesn’t have any value…and of course our forgiveness will be treated as our Achilles' heel or mad…and we will be treated as the ones who is not realistic or not practical as to live in this world….but lemme have your answer from your heart, does love and relation can be practical? If can, it would be selfish na? Then can it be called as love or relation which is said to be as the most beautiful thins in the world….

And if we forgave even without saying anything or before even begging for the same, of course the other end won’t understand the value of forgiveness and always treat as the most waste and worst character in this world…why so? Is our forgiveness not divine?

Someone asked me once “What is more painful?? When a person whom you trusted hurts you or a person whom who hurt still trusts you??? Which one do you think?


What do you have to say about forgiveness, Answerers? How powerful is it? Is forgiveness even realistic? What are your thoughts on forgiveness? Can you truly forgive everything? What would be hardest thing for you to forgive?

4 comments:

♪♪ ::Jithu:: ♪♪ said...

To be frank, I didn't understand what exactly u were trying to say by this post.. if its abt forgiveness, It should not be done for the sake of doing it... If a person deserves to be forgiven... If he has no role in the end result.. and its just fate, then we can forgive him.. else.. I say it all bullshit!! By forgiving its you who lose happiness or peace in life.. not the other one.. so b4 talking abt forgiveness.. think twice whether the person whom we forgive really deserves to be given a chance... else.. its all stupidity.. :) After all I wnt let anyone take anything for granted! Thats my way of living...
::Jithu::

Darshana said...

Don think too mch dear...Do wat ur heart says..If u cn forgive,only thn do that..these things r gud to b said..bt doin it is a different thin al together..

soni said...

deepz its awesome....

sooraj said...

dey ethu manasilakkan korachu padanu ketta...
well love and relationship... lemme ask u one question what is the basis of a relation without love.... and how will it be selfish..
pinne forgiveness... if you can forgive then that is the greatest thing in a relation ship.. but there is no need to forgive for evrything...