Yeh Dosti hum nahin thodenge.....

On friendship day, my friend told me to write something in my blog.I thought why can’t it be about my friends??? I love to have lots of friends…I have too…from different parts of the world…among them, few are very close to me…they can even interpret my heartbeats…some others, though we are not sharing personal matters also, make me feel that they are my good friends. Then just Hi-hello friends…but all are my friends...

Whenever thinking of my friends, one face will always come first…the one who sat beside me in my nursery classes…one who was with me in almost all moments of my life and still.. Fortunately she is still with me as my best friend…the friendship for last 23 years…

Before going for my engineering classes, I joined for B.Sc .I was there just for 2 months. The most fabulous team of my friends, I met there. We were just 20 in the class. Due to the ragging from seniors, we got to close each other very soon. After 2 months, I left the college …still we are friends…not just friends, but very good friends. All knows about each and every one’s current situation…the most interesting thing is I haven’t met them after I left the college. I.e. for the last 6 years…but we never felt that we are away from each other…distance never came in between…The sad part is one of them is going to Dubai soon . The one among them, who is most close to me…He is the one with whom I always feel comfortable and recognized. Probably am not going to meet him again…Wishing him all the very best…

Then, my engineering college friends…we were almost 40 in number. There I met one whom i thought that I could count till my end…a lot of similarities were there in between us…starts from our name itself…but now ,I don’t know what happened in between us, where our wavelength became opposite, who is wrong exactly…me or she? I’m not saying that am perfect. I might have also done mistake…but I tried my level best to sort out and wished from my heart to get her back. But nothing is worked out…we just split off for ever…and I feel that whatever may happen, we won’t be together in future for sure…’Coz once the distance shadowed over attachment , rejoin is not that much easy…

Then, Bangalore comes in picture…Here also I got a few of friends whom I can count till my end…whom am considering as my strength…whom I met in the worst moments of my life and became my inspiration to live…with whom I can share whatever I think…the one with whom if I don’t make at least one clash in a day, feel bore and if its done, ends up with tears in my eyes and always I prefer to say sorry first …

Next, my batch mates in Wipro comes...we were 53 from different parts of India...It was a mini-India. We kept aside all constrains like languages, regional integration and all and became a true friend’s gang within the limited time of training. After training, we got posted in different locations and still in touch with great intensity.

Two of my friends, I think I should refer them specially…simply ‘coz both of them are very special to me…I met one of them in a camp during school days….just 3 days together…but we were made to be friends for life long… a lot of things are there which we love, like, dew drops on the tip of leaves in early morning, rain, long walks ,books, writing, reading, poems, outlook about friendship, and a lot…in most of the cases, our wavelength matches….Now she is into her most favorite field and moving on in life…

Next one is my classmate during engineering days…we sat together in class for 4 years…shared each and every moments of our life…happiness, tears, tension, wishes, hopes and all emotions. The most special thing in between us is, even if we are not talking for few months also, we are not feeling that we are away from each other…where we stopped last time; we could always start from there in next time…but the interesting thing is, in almost all the cases, we do have different opinions…our attitude is different, our likes/dislikes are different, way of thinking is extremely different. Sometime we are in opposite poles…opposite poles attract na? The same thing is happened in between us… She is married and living happily with her hubby and now awaiting for their baby doll …


As days pass away, the frequency of calls/mails may decrease; get together may be once in a while. But friends are always friends…I never choose my friends on the basis of physical constraints …I always believe feeling good is more important than looking good. With whom I feel good, I call them my friends. So I still have a number of friends who always try to reach me if I stay away also….


One forward message, which I got to my mobile long back, still I keep in my
inbox,

“We’ve met each other by CHANCE, became friends by CHOICE, still friends by DECISION and will be friends for ever by PROMISE”


And, I promise you my dear friends, I will be your friend till my end……

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Trust, Relation and Forgiveness

I’ve been thinking a lot more about forgiveness the nowadays। We’ve all been wronged at some point in our life। In light of many experiences in life, can we learn to forgive and have unconditional love for those who so clearly haven’t had it for us? Is our forgiveness always divine or, is our forgiveness centered on selfish reasons - to get well and move on?

Just think about a relation which isn’t all able to see the pain in the eyes... Do you think that it’s healthy one? I don’t. Some relationships have some splendid features which can heal any wound ….but some others, though even close and being near always, only helps to bleed inside...

It is said that everyone is a spiritual teacher, especially those who hurt us. There are some people you see on a regular basis - the ones who sometimes pulverize your nerves, push your buttons, or even those who remind you of painful times. Our adversaries turn out to be our greatest teachers then, don’t you think? Does forgiveness then start a healing process?

The most wonderful of all things in life, I believe, is the discovery of another human being with whom one's relationship has a growing depth, beauty, and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing; it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a sort of divine accident, and the most wonderful of all things in life."

Forgiveness comes to picture only when the one who get let off by the other really wishes for the same… until and unless if she/he doesn’t wish for the forgiveness of his/her loved one, it doesn’t have any value…and of course our forgiveness will be treated as our Achilles' heel or mad…and we will be treated as the ones who is not realistic or not practical as to live in this world….but lemme have your answer from your heart, does love and relation can be practical? If can, it would be selfish na? Then can it be called as love or relation which is said to be as the most beautiful thins in the world….

And if we forgave even without saying anything or before even begging for the same, of course the other end won’t understand the value of forgiveness and always treat as the most waste and worst character in this world…why so? Is our forgiveness not divine?

Someone asked me once “What is more painful?? When a person whom you trusted hurts you or a person whom who hurt still trusts you??? Which one do you think?


What do you have to say about forgiveness, Answerers? How powerful is it? Is forgiveness even realistic? What are your thoughts on forgiveness? Can you truly forgive everything? What would be hardest thing for you to forgive?